1. HORMONES MAKE TEAR PRODUCTION HARDER FOR MEN, EASIER FOR WOMEN.
Think men don’t cry as often because they’re “strong” or lack emotion? Well, you can’t cry if you don’t have the tears to do it. Before puberty, girls and boys cry in equal amounts, and for pretty much the exact same reasons. When puberty hits and we get our hormones on (testosterone for the fellas and prolactin for ladies), our ability to PRODUCE tears changes. Testosterone may inhibit tear production in men, while prolactin actually makes crying easier (and encourages it) for women. Though the experience of feeling emotion may be exactly the same between the sexes, men’s bodies are simply less likely to produce tears as a response (while women’s bodies may produce them automatically, especially in response to stress). This hormonal difference also means that in situations where men & women BEGIN to cry, men may be able to shut down the reflex more easily, whereas women may have a much harder time holding them back. Women with especially high prolactin levels (preggers, post-preggers, hormonally imbalance like me, etc) may find they can cry almost indefinitely when emotions run high. I call it “leaking”, lol. In general, women are QUEENS of the “good, long cry”. Women may produce more tears than normal when depressed/anxious because of higher levels of tear producing stress hormone.
For men trying to understand a female cry response, it’s kind of like a boner for your eyeballs: sometimes it happens for no reason and you can’t shut it off right away EVEN when you desperately wanna. That’s not to say women are emotionally irrational or somehow unable to function when crying: we just have a physical response to emotion that makes us more likely to express it with tears. Tears (or lack of tears) are also NOT an indicator of depth of feeling or lack of emotion: a man can be devastated and simply be unable to produce tears (or will produce just a few). A woman can be mildly upset or stressed and cry whole heartedly.
I should be all smileys and cheers… and yet here’s just me hoping that the last point wasn’t meant to summarise the points above it.
The amount of languages I have at least a cursory understanding of is always something I’m rather proud of.
And then I wind up in a situation where I have to actually use one of those languages, and I’m just like I DON’T KNOW WHAT I’M DOING OH GOD IS IT KIRSCHE OR KIRCHE? AM I EATING A CHURCH OH GOD HELP.
It’s just that people keep asking me how many languages I speak and are so confused when I reply “two.” They say, “I thought you were studying linguistics?” and I reply, “Do you ask botanists how many plants they can grow?”
“please be a gay romance option. please be a gay romance option. please be a gay romance option. please be a gay romance option. please be a gay romance option. please be a gay romance option. please be a gay romance option. please be a gay romance option. please be a gay romance option.”—sacred chant of the bioware homosexual (via spicyshimmy)
“I have gotten one question repeatedly from young men. These are guys who liked the book, but they are honestly confused. They ask me why Melinda was so upset about being raped.
The first dozen times I heard this, I was horrified. But I heard it over and over again. I realized that many young men are not being taught the impact that sexual assault has on a woman. They are inundated by sexual imagery in the media, and often come to the (incorrect) conclusion that having sex is not a big deal. This, no doubt, is why the number of sexual assaults is so high.”—
Laurie Halse Anderson, author of Speak, on the question “Have any readers ever asked questions that shocked you?”
Read that again. Read it again, and again, and again. Over and over guys have asked her why Melinda was so upset about being raped. This is a girl who went to a party with friends. She was thirteen. She had a drink, because everyone else was. And a senior held her down and raped her while she was too drunk to get away.
And guys don’t understand why she was upset.
Read that again and then come back and tell me again why I should just shut up and take a joke when a comedian blows off rape as a big deal, or women’s bodies are casually treated as commodities in media. Remind me why I shouldn’t care about the very real harm that society’s treatment of women and sexual assault does.
IF YOU DON’T GET THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN PANSEXUALS AND BISEXUALS THEN you’re pretty normal i mean lots of people use the definitions and words interchangeably so your confusion is valid and not at all bigoted as some might say
It’s okay as long as you don’t call yourself pansexual and then go omg intersex/gendervariant/trans* people are sooo weird.
I’m sure there’s been posts about this and I’m not hugely into the fandom but one thing that always bothered me about the Harry Potter world was that they have no sex education at Hogwarts.
not even like, basic stuff about anatomy and how the body works let alone the fact that magical humans can breed with all sorts of other magical beings like veela and giants and who else, if you were an animagus could you get pregnant/get an animal pregnant in that form? would you then be stuck in that form like Loki was stuck as a horse or could you revert to human, and if you did that would the fetus still be an animal? or would it be born as an animagus?
and that’s not even considering the magic you could use during sex. I mean, the most basic of all: engorgio penis/breasts/clitoris, and then all the bondage possibilities and enchantments of bedroom items. Magical vibrators and self-activating fuck machines. The rape implications of amortentia are covered but what about petrificus totalis or locomotor mortis? or the imperio curse? sure it’s illegal but the other two aren’t.
Butch gay girls get asked “if you love women, why don’t you dress like one?”
This question makes sense, after all. Straight men dress like women, and gay men are always butch, and bisexuals just have very confused wardrobes. Aces, of course, wear invisibility cloaks, or go naked.
What we see through social media is a generation of ignorant social activists. Young men and women all too willing to care about and defend something they don’t truly understand and refuse to educate themselves further on because they assume the limited information they receive has been vetted by someone more knowledgeable than themselves. This happens on both sides of the fence, with both conservatives and liberals.
I’ve seen arguably intelligent young men and women stand up at banquets and rallies, demanding answers about things like healthcare, DOMA, federal military actions. Asking questions about things they’ve seen on Facebook, on twitter, things that they’ve taken little to no time to research for themselves, and they look like fools. No matter their age, they paint themselves with a red mark that announces ‘I’m not mature enough to be here, to discuss these issues’.
But even so, it isn’t truly about age. It’s about social awareness. You are not discounted until you make a mistake. Say the wrong thing or quote the wrong statistic. Until then, your legitimacy remains intact.
Tumblr is like this.
I’ve seen people furious over gay rights legislation that doesn’t actually exist. Wars that haven’t happened. Most recently text posts with tens of thousands of notes alleging that China and Russia are going to go to war with the US over Syria.
Blogs relaying damaging misinformation written by individuals who can’t seem to be bothered to read a newspaper or use google properly. This is a crippling trend, and no one sees it.
These people get untold attention and affirmation until one person with a large enough follower count points out the flaw in their argument. Corrects the mistake, and shifts the tide. But this doesn’t fix the thousands of people who liked and reblogged the original post. The damage is done.
If there is one thing I’ve learned from working on political campaigns, very little is more damaging than an activist who argues only one side of the story without recognizing the existence of the other; because your opinion, no matter how solid and seemingly factually based, is invalid the second your audience realizes they know more than you.
And the result of all of this is a generation of young activists who don’t understand why they aren’t being taken seriously.
”—a recent conversation with a colleague regarding social media (via onawingandaswear)
spoiler alert people don’t go to starbucks because its “cool” or “hipster” they go there because its the most popular fucking coffee joint in the country and where the hell else are they supposed to get their coffee
I go to Starbucks because I got a Starbucks tumbler for my birthday and thus it’s now the cheapest place for me to get a large coffee around here. Not even kidding.
Why Is It So Hard For You To Make A Wonder Woman or Black Widow Origins Movie You Pieces Of Shit ‘We Don’t Have The Money Or Resources’ Is That Why You’re Making Another Hit Batman Movie As If We’ve Never Seen One Before Wow What An Original And ‘Dark And Edgy’ Idea I Hate You: A Memoir
“At 5 you’re too young because 5 year olds believe they’re superman. At 11 you’re too young because puberty hasn’t set in yet. At 16 you’re too young because puberty hormones mess with everyone. At 18 you’re too young for the same reason. And after 18 you’re too old because if you were really trans you would have said something by now.What people really want is for trans people to stop existing so we stop challenging the common, incorrect idea that men and women are as separate and uncrossable as if they were separate species.”—A Widdershins Girl: Transphobic logic (via theselfmademen)